The Urgency Trap: Break Up with Busy Culture
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How much does stress or being in a rush dictate your life? Urgency is so woven into the fabric of our society, it can be hard to not only name it, but separate ourselves from it. Even after the pandemic, the cult of busy, FOMO and the ever-present pressure to have finished yesterday are so pervasive they shape so much of how we view ourselves and interact with one another. A silent assassin, urgency oftentimes can make us feel flawed, like something is fundamentally wrong with us. This episode aims to shine a light on what urgency is, how it often leads to anxiety, separates us from our authenticity and ways to separate ourselves from it.
TOPICS
[4:00] shining a light on urgency
[7:10] urgency in white supremacy culture
[10:30] urgency definition
[12:50] the impact of urgency
[18:00] separating yourself from urgency
[23:00] examples of urgency
RELEVANT LINKS
Nikki’s TEDxTalk: Break the Rules in Life, Then Re-write Your Own
Book: Parts Work: An Illustrated Guide to Your Inner Life by Tom Holmes (2011)
Checkbox Other Podcast: Stop Letting the “Shoulds” Rule Your Life
Instagram carousel: The Holistic Psychologist on healing
Virtual Keynote: The Antidote to Toxic Leadership (talks about urgency)
QUOTES
“Oftentimes when we are just trying to get things done as fast as possible, we have blinders on. So we just get them done.”
“Seeing if I can dance with urgency a little bit differently is the goal here.”
“Labeling urgency and understanding what it is, gives you so much permission to separate it from yourself and how you must respond.”
“I can make time for the things that are valuable for me. I do not have to rush. I am on a schedule that I am on for my life. I'm the only person that's gonna be here for every moment of it. So how do I wanna operate with it?”
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I’ve never been one to be put in a category or fit under one label so here are a few descriptors I identify with: Connector. Empath. Inclusion Advocate. Creator of Safe Spaces in the Gray Area. Women’s Leadership Coach. Hype Woman. Story Fiend. Lover of Conversation. Former Corporate Marketer.